Happiness is such a pretty wrapped present, really. I do wish these words below were mine. A cousin gave me this daily meditation book a few years ago. I must say, my attitude the first year reading it was “Sure, yea RIGHT”. Over the past year to year and a half, I read this book thinking, “Absolutely, damn it.” I hold the key to my own happiness. I dance to my own beat. Happiness is mine…. for me to open and enjoy.
Using Others to Stop our Pain.
Our happiness is not a present someone else holds in his or her hands. Our well-being is not held by another to be given or withheld at whim. If we reach out and try to force someone to give us what we believe he or she holds, we will be disappointed. We will discover that it is an illusion. The person didn’t hold it. He or she never shall. That beautifully wrapped box with the ribbon on it that we believed contained our happiness that someone was holding – it’s an illusion!
In those moments when we are trying to reach out and force someone to stop our pain and create our joy, if we can find the courage to stop flailing about and instead stand still and deal with our issues, we will find our happiness.
Yes, it is true that if someone steps on our foot, he or she is hurting us and holds the power to stop our pain by removing his or her foot. But the pain is still ours. And so is the responsibility to tell someone to stop stepping on our feet.
Healing will come when we’re aware of how we attempt to use others to stop our pain and create our happiness. We will heal from our past. We will receive insights that can change the course of our relationships. We will see that, all along, our happiness and our well being have been in our hands. We have held that box. The contents are ours for the opening. (Melody Beattie; The Lauguage of Letting Go)
Randoms; It’s almost February. 2012 Goal Focused. I actually had a dream, which means I actually slept. I want paint on my house.